Monday, March 13, 2017

Apathy is like a kudzu vine.

It sprouts up where it shouldn’t exist, thrives where it shouldn’t thrive, climbs over walls and buildings and people and wraps around us and pierces our hearts and minds. It’s so rampant that sometimes I actually get angry.

How many times have we heard the phrase I Don’t Care? Or Who Cares? Or Nobody Cares?

Why don’t we care?

Why are we afraid of caring? Or, at least, coming across as people who care about a lot of stuff?

I’d say that this is particularly true on high school campuses. For some reason, the kids who seem to not really care about anything are actually considered “cool.” They don’t care about school, so they don’t care about doing homework or doing well on tests, and because they don’t care and are, in a sense, “defying the system,” they’re cool. On the other hand, the nerds (aka people like me) care about doing well in school, so we pour almost all our time and energy into studying and doing well. And, as a result, we’re labeled nerds, which in this context has a derogatory connotation. Because we care.

And more often than not, I find myself pretending not to care when, deep down inside, I know I’m lying to myself and everyone around me. When I say that I “didn’t really study,” what I really mean is, I probably didn’t do as much as I could have, but I still looked over my notes and completed my assignments. When I say that I “really don’t care” about an assignment but do it anyway, I’m lying--I do care, or else I wouldn’t do the assignment.

So then why do I even care about coming across as apathetic towards schoolwork, when clearly it isn’t the case?

I think our society largely emphasizes selfishness, because of this, apathy is selfishness: by showing that we don’t care about others or the things around us, we prove that we only care about ourselves. If you’re not genuinely invested in something or someone, you won’t get hurt. And people don’t like to be hurt. So we take the easy way out and choose not to care about something or someone.

But we should care.

We can’t care about everything. But we shouldn’t pretend that we don’t care about the things that we do care about, because the truth is that God cares. He cares about you, and He cares about me, and He cares about all of us enough to send his own Son down to save us. He made us to care.


Care about your family. Care about your siblings and parents, how they're doing, if there's anything you can do to make their lives easier. Care about their futures, and if you care about theirs, then you’ll care about your own as well. Because in the future, you might be all that they have.

Care about your future. Care about the things you put in your brain, care about being curious, care about the things that make you happy, and about the remedies to the things that don’t.

Learn new things, even if you get nothing from them but pure enjoyment. Sit by the side of the road at sunset and think, even if the drivers on the road stare at you and think you're weird. Perfect the art of waiting. Bring cupcakes to people for no reason. Give more, of both the things that you have and about the things that you don’t.

Because life is full of ironies. It’s funny how the things that, on paper, look like they’ll attract less comfort--for example, giving away money--will actually cause you to reap more joy than you would have if you'd simply kept the money to yourself. And it’s funny how the people who “are always on the lookout for Number One” seem to be the most miserable.

Burn that kudzu. Spray it with plant killer. It’ll keep threatening to come back. Don’t let it.

Life is too short to not care.


  1. You have struck me with inspiration.

    Thank you.

  2. This is so perfect- much more well written than my apathy post, haha. ;)

    1. Yours was beautiful, Grace Anne! Great minds think alike!

    Lately I'm finding it so easy to care a lot about school and family and stuff but not show that I care a lot about friends cause I don't wanna deal with being let down again by them not caring ya know??? ugh, this post was really good for me though. your blog is so real and you write so .........cant think of the word. it's freaking awesome.

    1. aewebpoij!! So glad you liked it!! And I completely understand when you say you don't wanna be let down by friends--I've gone through that same thing.

  4. Gosh the blog community has been writing so much truth lately it makes me want to snuggle in and read everyone's thought posts all day.

    When you're thrown up with some of the smartest kids in your class and perhaps the entire school but you're also the youngest in the 500 students in your grade, it does throw some weight on you and for me, I'm ridiculously hard on myself and the expectations set that I cry easily. And it's not bad crying-- but too others, it signals that I care too much. But is it wrong to care that much when it will affect you sooner or later?

    xoxo Abby

    1. It's not wrong to care too much, because "too much" is relative and very subjective. It's wrong when you care so much that you're consumed by it, constantly thinking about it, driven by it to extremes. Everyone will undergo disappointment, so just try to keep your life balanced :)

  5. This is an incredible post. <3 Thank you so much for sharing. Your blog is truly an inspiration!

    lavender & blue

    1. thank you so much, Sophy! Can't wait to check out your blog :)

  6. I had just written a post about how miserable I was when some girl commented that I should read this post, and I'm not at all disappointed. There is something strange about this world we live in where not caring is the norm, and I personally seem to have fallen into that trap. Thank you for calling me out. Caring is so hard because you're right, we don't like getting hurt. And sometimes once you've not cared for so long, learning to care again is easier said than done. Once you care you actually have to try. Once you care you have to be emotionally invested. But you're right, life's too short not to care, so it's time to start caring one step at a time. What exactly is it that I should care about though?


    1. Care about your family, your friends, God. Care about serving others over oneself. Care about making a change in the world and changing the culture that we live in, this world that values not caring and looking out for No. 1. Care about building relationships, building friendships. When they crumble--as most friendships will--care about building them up again.

      Thank you for commenting, M! Praying for you :)


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